- It is normal to feel anxious, frustrated and angry.
- We will give you some tips to overcome this situation and to resume your fertility treatment in the best physical shape and state of mind.
- Our experienced counsellors can provide you with online consultations to ease your stress, offering a neutral environment to share your feelings.
COVID19 and assisted reproduction
Coronavirus outbreak has disrupted everyone’s life. For the first time we see ourselves isolated, doing social distancing, giving up those little pleasures of our daily life. At IVI we are very aware of the special circumstances our patients are experiencing and how stressful, frustrating and painful might be to “press pause” in your fertility journey. We are also very sorry that this happened, as we understand your desire to become parents and the effort it has taken for you to get where you are.
I feel distressed, is it normal?
You may feel anxious, frustrated or perhaps angry at this situation, feeling that “it is not fair” or that it was really “bad luck” it happened to you. It is normal to think and feel like this, but don’t let yourself get carried away by it. Remember that the best decision has been made for these special circumstances and that you are “just” putting off your wish to get pregnant. Although the measures might be perceived as radical for many, these are made to ensure patients’ safety, social responsibility and more importantly the best possible conditions for your pregnancy and your future baby.
What can I do until I can restart the treatment?
We are experiencing a World Health issue and although, this unexpected and difficult situation is temporary, much to our regret we have been forced to put on hold our lives and projects. Nonetheless, every cloud has a silver lining and we have the chance to make the most of this particular setback, get ready and in good health to resume your treatment as soon as possible.
Here there are some tips on how to best cope with these circumstances:
- It is true that many thoughts will enter your mind: “if only I’d done it earlier…”, “will this affect our chances to conceive”, “how long will this last”, “what if I don’t have money or a job by then… “. It is normal to experience all these thoughts at once, but anticipating will only increase your anxiety and the harsh reality is that these thoughts will not be useful or help you in any way . Live in the present, the HERE and the NOW. The future will come and the past is already gone. No one knows “how long” or “what would have happened if…”. Accept these thoughts and emotions as normal and try to focus on living each day in the best possible way. Finding entertaining activities and planning and organising your daily routine will help you.
- You’re probably thinking that you are running out of time, and that the clock is ticking (loudly). Your ovarian reserve, your egg quality or your chances of having a successful implantation will not differ significantly in a few months’ time. Having said that, and knowing that this will be a temporary situation, try to stay calm and silence that ticking clock.
- Make the most of this time to take care of yourself. Eat healthy, get plenty of sleep, rest, practice meditation, invest part of your spare time to do those little things that we don’t allow ourselves to do at other times, with the fast pace of life. How many times have we thought “If I had time I would…”? Now you have it, enjoy it!
- Protect yourself and your loved ones, following the health recommendations:
- Wash your hands
- Stay at home
- Wear gloves and a mask when indicated
- Follow your doctor’s recommendations to recover and overcome the virus if you have been infected
- Look after your diet and try to stay active: it is common that anxiety or “having nothing to do” leads us to eat more, as well as eating foods with too much sugar. Try to keep a balanced diet and to be imaginative: now you may have more time to cook healthy tasty recipes, which will also help you to make your daily life less monotonous.
- Sharing is caring: Acknowledge all your feelings, embrace them and share them with your partner. It is very likely that he or she are going through similar emotions and they may also need someone to talk to. Sharing your feelings with close relatives or friends might also be helpful.
- Keep your mind busy as much as possible. It might be a good time to be part of community initiatives or to care for others as well. Helping out might help you to change the focus of your feelings and will definitely make you feel better.
What if this is not enough?
At IVI we count on experienced counsellors who can offer you support during these rough times. A counsellor is meant to be a friendly figure that in a neutral environment will provide you with the assistance, help and tools to cope with the issues that have been raised by these extraordinary times we live in. For more information contact us.
These are certainly difficult times for all of us. Albert Einstein once said that “In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity”. Well… let´s make the most of this stage to take care of ourselves, to learn and grow and to get ready to start a family. The following days we will suggest recommendations to help you with this. So stay tuned and always keep in mind that “The best is yet to come”.